Introduction
In a world characterized by its relentless pace, the yearning to leave an indelible mark on the sands of time is a deep-seated aspiration nestled within the recesses of every human mind. We ask ourselves, what legacy am I creating? We are deeply aware of how each day, every decision, and every action contribute to the narrative of our lives. In this blog post, we delve into the profound notion that you are the legacy, exploring the impact of your choices on the world around you and the true identity of the lasting imprint you leave for future generations.
Embracing Individuality Beyond Expectations
Have you ever come across a moment in a TV show or a movie that resonates so deeply? I recently experienced one of such moments while watching the Netflix series, All American. In this scene, Layla Keating was having a conversation with her dad and he said to her, “you are my legacy.” For those who are not familiar with the show, Layla’s dad owned a record label and her mom was a songwriter/artist. Layla wanted to continue her parent’s legacy as a producer of her own record label, but she made several mistakes and same goes for her dad. They had multiple misunderstandings due to miscommunication and unmet expectations. Eventually, they both got to the end of themselves and her father realized that she is his true legacy and not what he had built so he could trust her to carry on his legacy. This revelation prompts a reflection on the broader theme of legacy and the challenges it presents to those raised in the shadows of accomplished parents. It’s a common struggle: feeling the weight of a high standard set by our predecessors and grappling with the desire to forge our own paths while honoring the values instilled in us. The internal conflict often leads to a paralyzing pressure that, for some, results in giving up on the pursuit of authenticity.
My mom turned 60 last year and it was heartwarming celebrating her alongside all her family and friends. It was an excellent time to honor her years of dedication and service to her family and her community. I am one of many who look up to my mom because of all that she has allowed God to accomplish through her. One of her spiritual daughters said this in a post, “a star was born, an epitome of beauty was born, a mentor was born, a woman of great virtue per excellent was born. Just like yesterday, 60 years roll by, can’t even knows that she is 60 already looking like 30. What a great grace! My mummy, the path you laid my leg, I did not deviate from it. It keeps me stronger and stronger everyday of my life. Everyone of us that pass through you are blessed and we are happy for knowing Christ in you. An angel in human form! Mummy, this accolades is just small for what you have done. Only God can reward you, mum. I join the multitude of people to say happy birthday to an exemplary mother and a guidance. Congratulations, congratulations, and congratulations mum.” I read messages like this and my heart is filled with joy and gratitude to God for giving me an angel as my mom. Then I start to think about myself, what will my legacy be when I turn 60? Many have told me I bear a striking resemblance to my mom. I do agree that biology has blessed me with certain physical features that I inherited from her. How about in other areas, I will ask myself. Will I ever be able to mirror her compassionate heart, loving soul, relentless spirit, and generous hands? Just like Layla, sometimes I can’t help but ponder, will my siblings and I grow to become our parents’ true legacy?
Layla’s journey is a microcosm of the universal struggle to define oneself amidst the looming expectations of familial success. How many of us have attempted to distance ourselves from our parents’ shadows, only to find that the pursuit of an independent identity can be overwhelming? It’s an arduous process of trial and error, of making mistakes and learning from them. In the quest for self-discovery, there comes a pivotal moment where we realize that we can no longer run away from our true selves. It’s the realization that, much like Layla, we are the embodiment of our parents’ legacy, not just the sum of their accomplishments. Our unique strengths, quirks, and aspirations contribute to the family legacy. If you are a parent reading this or contemplating parenthood, take a moment to reflect on what legacy means to you. Is it the preservation of a specific image or the nurturing of a thriving, authentic individual? Layla’s story serves as a reminder that parents do not need their children to emulate their achievements for the sake of preserving what they’ve built. Instead, they should desire that their kids become the genuine manifestation of their values and teachings. Although my mom has never explicitly said the words, “you are my legacy,” I see it in how she encourages all her children, biological and spiritual, that she truly believes we are her legacy. Let me better that, it is my mom’s utmost desire that we all become Christ’s ambassadors just as she has mirrored that to us in her words and deeds. If my mom were to say the words Layla’s dad said, I have no doubt it would be like the words Apostle Paul said in 1 Corinthians 11:1 (NIV), “Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.”
Conclusion
For those reading this who have made a vow to forge their own path, remember that embracing your unique identity doesn’t diminish the importance of the legacy you carry. In fact, it enhances it. As you navigate life’s twists and turns, let the understanding that you are the legacy empower you rather than burden you. The world is enriched when individuals embrace their authenticity. You are not just a byproduct of your family’s legacy; you are the living, breathing embodiment of it. Embrace your individuality, pursue your passions, and recognize that, in doing so, you are not only honoring your legacy but contributing to its ongoing evolution.
Closing Prayer
Salvation Prayer (say this prayer of confession if you desire to dedicate your life to God and trust Him to be Lord over your life): Lord Jesus, I admit that I am a sinner in need of a savior. I am sorry for living my life following the will of my flesh and my sinful nature. I renounce my covenant and longing for a glorified sinful lifestyle. I proclaim that all my heart desires are the things of God. My Lord and my God, I want to do your will. Forgive me for every time I have tried to initiate or impose my will as your will for my life. Come into my life afresh and make me whole again. I believe you, Jesus Christ of Nazareth, died on the cross, bore my sins, and rose again that I might become the righteousness of God. I accept this invitation to become a child of God. Holy Spirit, come into my life and guide me in all truth. Teach me the ways of the Father as I study scripture. My good God and Heavenly Father, show me where you are already at work in my life and give me a willing and obedient heart to join you in fulfilling your will at your timing, walking in your way at your command, and abiding in a continual fellowship with you. So help me, God. Amen
“May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you.”
2 Corinthians 13:14 (NIV)
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